Identity Exploration


“Change is the only constant in life”

- Heraclitus, Greek philosopher



As Heraclitus stated, the only thing we can be certain of in this life is change. While it often seems that things are changing all around us, we, too, are often in a state of change. 

Our sense of self - or identity construction - is a major part of our development as we mature into adulthood. However, our identity development doesn’t stop there. Some elements of our identity may evolve over time, such as a casual runner who over time identifies as an athlete, a hobbyist who develops their craft, or someone who rises in their career/field. Other changes may occur suddenly, such as becoming a cancer patient, a widow, or disabled due to an accident or illness. And other identity shifts may be planned for such as parenthood, a career change, or retirement. Sometimes pivotal moments cause us to question our identity, such as a request for a divorce, losing one’s job, becoming an empty nester, or losing a child.

While some parts of our identity are public or forward-facing, such as parenthood, being partnered, and many faith-based identities, other identities might be private, such as addiction, sexual exploration/kink identities, sexual identity, or gender identity. Some identities might be solidified and embraced, while others might be in exploration or questioning.

Regardless if we planned for a shift in our identity or not, whether we are exploring or firmly rooted in an identity, our identities are how we define ourselves, and our surroundings shape which parts of our identities are validated, how and if they can show up, and in which ways they can show up. 

Exploring these parts of ourselves can leave us questioning who we are, how did we get here, and what does it all mean. It can bring up self-doubt, fear, anger, guilt, and shame. It can also bring up excitement, joy, and creativity. Shifting identities or making hidden identities public can cause relationship or familial conflict. It can also lead to healing, connection, and growth. At times it might feel isolating, crazy-making, or panicked. And at other times it might feel fulfilling and like coming home.

Examples of Identity Exploration

  • Professional development

  • Career shift

  • Relationship status

    • Marriage, separation, divorce, widowhood

  • Sexual exploration

    • Kink, BDSM, non-monogamy, polyamory, open-relationship

  • Sexual identity

  • Gender identity

  • Parenthood

    • New parenthood, empty nesting, loss of a child

  • Caregiving

  • Ability/Disability

  • Chronic illness diagnosis

  • Spirituality/Faith

  • Life’s purpose

The therapists at Evolve in Nature provide a judgment-free, compassionate, and supportive environment so you can explore, develop, and grow with confidence into your evolving identity. We believe you are an expert in yourself and that in a healthy therapeutic relationship, your inner wisdom can come forth to guide you towards a fulfilled, empowered, and authentic life.

 

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